P.E.C.c. Le Regole Nascoste della Vita
(The Hidden Rules of Life)
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The Existential Competition
Existential Competition is an Individual Rule created to act or react in the face of a potential Staying Alive Risk, by activating hormones such as adrenaline, necessary to stimulate cardiac and neuromuscular activity.
It can be learned already during pregnancy or in childhood, by Mirroring towards one or both Creator-Parents, when they project into the Territory (family environment) the perception of a more or less high Existential Risk, even if no longer present but is based on traumatic events that occurred in the Past Space-Time, experienced as current (see the story in Running).
The family unit becomes the first Competing Territory since pregnancy. That is what happened to the twins in the story Until the Last Breath, competing for the absorption of nutrients and the Control of the Surrounding Territory (uterus, placenta).
The competition can continue even in childhood between twins and with other siblings, to gain the attention of their mother or father.
During adolescence, the Competition, a daughter against the mother or a son against the father, not only emotionally but also professionally, especially between males.
In addition, the Competition can be with a sibling, partner, or companion, between spouses, a relative, coaches, friends, or colleagues at the workplace.
Everybody likes winning, and no one intentionally wants to lose whether it is an individual or team sport, or board games (chess, cards, board games, even when not playing for money), the Existential Competition is activated. What differs is the personal Identification they make with having won or lost.
When the Competition is Creator, the challenge or the match becomes a moment of personal growth and Mutual Sharing. Winning is, first of all, a personal challenge, a stimulus to improve ourselves, respecting the opponent and the game rules. Thus, a defeat becomes an opportunity to learn, of Assessment towards the technical, tactical, or physical aspects, and recognize our shortcomings and/or merits and the superiority of our opponent.
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Extract from the book “We Cannot Escape from Ourselves”.