Utopia indicates an ideal, a thought, a proposal, an individual, social, and political solution that is considered not feasible by those who evaluate it, at the time it is formulated. The person proposing it may be the one who considers it unfeasible or unsustainable if they cannot find the tools to realize it; or, those who listen to it may be the ones to consider it absurd and unfounded, and therefore not real or feasible.

 

During childhood, the Existential Utopia does not exist: no child (Infantile creature) places limits on what he wants to become or do. They live in the Here and Now where everything is possible, until they are conditioned by the thought-forms, experiences, and knowledge of others (parents, society).

They do it through what adults call playing, which is an implementation of their intuition or intention.

In addition, playing is an Existential Action for children because they put themselves in Competition and in a Relationship with each other, to determine hierarchies, and create alliances with those who Recognize their Needs and Purposes. They also learn how to deal with the Existential Risk of the Game Territory (the environment and the enemies, those who want to impose their Needs and Purposes).

Anything is possible as long as their imagination remains dynamic and not static. By experimenting, they acquire their Talents, and the physical and technical limits of their ideas, their skills grow with action and, if supported by parents or other adults, they learn new ways to enhance and complete their Projects or Purposes.

 

Let's take toys as an example: it is not a question of buying or not buying a toy or a video game, but of building a relationship of sharing and mutual understanding (Existential Relationship between Creators in Mutual Respect). The parent could ask their child why they chose that specific toy, what kind of game they will play, what stories they will create, what their role will be, and which family member or friend they will get involved. In short, they will help them to go beyond the object itself and share their ideas and imagination. They may recommend going home and writing a story with the toy as the protagonist and, only later, they will evaluate together if it is still so interesting as to be worth the money it will cost the family, of which children are an integral part. This does not happen in the Infantile Private Family Program, because the parents themselves did not receive that kind of respect and sharing as children. If the parents have money, the toy is often bought, so the child will behave, not make a fuss, and leave the parents alone for a while.

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Extract from the book “We Cannot Escape from Ourselves”.

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