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In this story, Amy shows off her singing skills as a child. Music is a common passion of both her parents' families: her mother's siblings are professional jazz musicians, and her father aspires to be a musician, although it is not his profession.

Amy is passionate about jazz and other music genders, and starts her musical training as a teenager. Thanks to her Talent and a powerful and unique voice, she will release her first album when she is 20 years old.

The Infantile creature/child Amy lives the Existential Perfection of being an only daughter and the youngest child, which guarantees that anything she will end up doing, even extreme, won't change the fact that her parents will be always there to protect her, keeping her alive (Staying Alive). This Reality changes drastically when she turns 10 and her father leaves the family to go to live with a female colleague, with whom he had a relationship he didn’t hide from his wife and two children, Amy and her brother Alex, four years older than her.

Her parents’ separation and divorce, unleash in Amy the fear (Vital Energy Emotion-Sentiment) of being abandoned.

Both parents, taken more by their couple problems (Infantile Familial Couple Program), than by relating to their children (Private Family Program), adopt Infantile Individual Rules: the mother, who suffers from multiple sclerosis (Disease Social Family Program), is unable to provide the security she seeks, and her father is interested in her life only when her first album becomes a hit, and could turn into an economic advantage and notoriety for him.

 

As an adolescent (minor Infantile Adult), not having their attention, Amy increasingly tries to get noticed, adopting the Contraposition Variable, cutting herself, getting drunk, smoking, transgressing every rule even at school. Eating and then vomiting, becomes her way to keep weight under control but, above all, to manifest her fear of growing up, of becoming an adult (Creator Adult) and taking Responsibility for her life.

Her nonconformity and musical Talent set her apart from many other adolescents, who experience similar and even worse situations; however, the Infantile Individual Rules she adopts will lead to experiencing success and notoriety as a Self-Denial.

When her first album "Frank" was released it received positive reviews, won awards and reaches the top of the British charts, selling over a million and a half of copies.

Fame and success make her feel more and more alone, betrayed by her own voice and music, the true centre of attraction for the record label, managers, family members, media, fans, who are looking forward to the release of her new records, and feed the insatiable media circus (Music Professional Social Family Program).

Success is a magnetic driving force that she had put in motion against her will and over which she has no Control. Instead of becoming an Of Age Creator Adult, Self-Sufficient and Self-Responsible, enjoying her singing skills and the music she makes, she maintains the Infantile Individual Rules, made of excesses, used as a child to get the attention of her parents (Infantile Private Family Program).

Musical success is accompanied by economic success and, not surprisingly, her father return to live with the family at that time.

As an Of Age Infantile Adult, Amy experiences the reunification of her parents, as a possible act of Self-Recognition (One-Triune Union Creator-Parents/mother-father – Infantile creature/child). And so, she continues to seek the approval of her father who, instead of being close to and reassure her, grabs every opportunity to shoot videos of her to make money. Besides, even from her mother she does not get any help and support, just as it had happened when she was a child.

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Extract from the book “We Cannot Escape from Ourselves”.

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